You can as well get killed than being in a loveless relationship! The continuous wish or hope that your partner would see you in a different light is excruciating. It is like a gamble where the odds are all against you.

Life is too short to be riddled with the burden of waiting to be loved and appreciated by the next person close to you. It gets to a point where your heart cannot take any more hurt that it shuts itself down.

Do you want to live for someone who does not care one way or the other for you or you would rather live for yourself?! The question of lookingfor the strength to do so does not even come in in this issue at all! If you are looking for the strength to leave someone who does noot care about you then, I would say (forgive me) that you have some masochistic tendencies! Otherwise, explain to me how you would let yourself remain in that relationship? I think you need help or are sick.

So please, I urge us all to live life and be happy in all and everything we set our lives to do. When you love yourself and have that self confidence and are not riddled with the belief that you cannot leave without someone then that  would be a step to a happy healthy living.

When Obi started out with a few slaps on the cheeks,Anita thought she could handle it,after all,no one is perfect. If Obi slapped her to cut her excesses, then she must endure and endeavor not to annoy him.

What a laugh! As the relationship progressed so did the beating,which had matured from the few slaps earlier given. It had also increased in intensity.

Then they got married.

What started out as Anita’s resolution to endure Obi’s beating led to her being scarred for life and then later, her death.

Could this have been prevented? A thousand times YES!

I believe that settling for less is one big reason so many people fall prey to this sad and humiliating phenomenon. I do not think that you are being consumed by your so called idea of love when you want to endure another human being beating the living daylights out of you and expect you to accept with no questions asked. I just think it is the victims’ inability to see the bigger picture and that perhaps,is the crux of the matter.

‘Cause if you are able to see the bigger picture, you would know that once it starts,it never stops until it is ended by either an external factor or an internal one of which both are still same like same sides of a coin.

Once your partner starts to batter you, you have got to get out immediately before you sink. Don’t think he will change,cause it would actually take divine intervention for that to happen. When a person starts to treat you like you are inferior, then it is time to leave.

I dare say that it is better where you are going and never ever look back because when you do,you would be worse of. Why would you subject yourself to torture and degradation when the world already has so much to give? I would think that you are a masochist or that,you are sick or something along those lines..

It’s time to get help

It’s time to let others in.

So that they can give you strength when you are weak and think for you when you are down and out and so confused.

Its time to send that batterer packing and reclaim your freedom and your soul. If you are reading this and are in this situation, you have to act now but with caution. You also have to be wise. I wish you the very best as you reclaim your life.

The pic I used is from Flicr,courtesy of Kisstherain

-Do not make hurtful comments. Your intent may be for good but the outcome will be unexpected in a bad way.

-Do not be aloof: Being unresponsive is like a loud ‘do not come near,I do not need you’ vibe

-Do not be judgmental,stop thinking you’re way above everyone,humility pays

-Do not be on the offensive for criticism,it should be taken in good faith

-Do not be a complainer, Stop being one! You tend to send your partner running out the door with your attitude

-Do not give solutions when you are needed to be a listening ear! Stop being a know-it-all for pete’s sake and be dependable

-Do not be a know-it-all

-Do not be commanding,stop imposing your demands on others.

-Do not be inconsistent with your words. Always keep to your promises or decisions

-Do not always be on a mind trip,always be present in conversations and stop being absent mindedo

I would like to believe that communication is the bedrock of every relationship. Even when there’s the absence of love or sex, communication and friendship between both parties would make the union,dalliance,easier to manage, whatever the case may be.

With communication, you are able to decipher your partner’s deepest feelings and desires as is yours if you both really open up to each other.

When there is that ease in communicating,it is difficult for there to be breakups, separation or divorce. Couples,partners,spouses and the likes should hold communication as the most important weapon and wield it ceaselessly. It even prevents cheating.There is also the absence of deep rooted malice.

What’s more? Talking makes whatever pain or hurt go away faster than bottling it all up.Silence would eat up your core and damage your essence when communicating your issues would save your relationship as it were.

So,this is hoping we’ve learnt something here today? just keep trying to communicate,not nag and even if your partner isn’t the talking type, he/she would learn from you eventually.

Hello!

How are we doing? Hope good? I guess we all kind of have

an idea of what this post is talking about? If so, the better.

We talk about this topic, let this saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ not be far from our minds.

There comes a time in every relationship where to preserve it,you have to create some distance.Now when is the call for space or distance needed?It comes up when you have a partner that tends to take you for granted or is never satisfied with who you are what he/she receives from you.

You know,nothing hurts as when your partner takes you for granted and does not value you especially when you try as much as possible to give your relationship your all. What to do?You have to create some space.

. Try not to make yourself so available. Reduce the calls you make without showing that it is actually your intention to do so.

Act distant and preoccupied without any show of malice. A show ofbeing busy would do the trick.Do not make yourself so available to his or her every whim and caprices.

Sometimes,they would want to get a reaction out of you by doing that which would normally cause you to talk or react,I urge you to maintain your stance and act like you do not notice the obvious intent of your partner.

It would not always be possible for you to just pack your bags and travell with the intention of giving your partner space due to obligations and ties, you can still give your partner space living in the same house with him/her.

And as with everything in life, do not overdo it. You know you are on the right path when your partner starts to show some sort of concern and wants to know why you have changed. Then,you can iron out your differences. I wish you the very best as you do so. Take care.

I first read about their engagement on BellaNaija and then, not too long ago, I read on LindaIkeji’s Blog.
I actually love reading the comments on Linda’s blog, some make me laugh whilst other make me think and that’s why I’m here right now….

Everyone seems to have an opinion as to their (tuface and annie’s) relationship and rightly so.
When I met Annie Macaulay, She didn’t strike me as the loyal, faithful type. I might have judged a book by it’s cover but I don’t think so.
Everyone keeps saying that Annie has tried and all, please please, those who are true to themselves would know she wasn’t your proverbial ”little miss santa santa”
That isnt my bone of contention but the name calling that some people specialized in.
Due to experiences in life, I won’t cast my stone but will make the following observations.
You don’t choose who you love but you don’t also love stupidly.
If stardom dictates love then it would most certainly be shortlived.
Being in a relationship is most different from being married.
It is not how far/long you’ve been in an irregular/dramatic relationship but how well
Don’t expect miracles when you get married.

That said, Annie, don’t get upset when he goes to visit his baby mamas in the guise of going to check up on his kids..
Don’t divorce Tuface when he gets some other chic pregnant.
If you can live with all of that and even more then, I guess I can say Congratulations..
And yes, please…. NO MORE RUNZ!
Let your love weather the storm oh,, Don’t dull.

Cause, with Tuface, what you see is what you get…
If you’re not too sure Festac isn’t too far from where you’re at.
M done.
You can hate me.. But I had to say this.
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Have touched on a topic based on decision making? I kind of think I have..
Yes, I did… see EXERCISE CAUTION..
But, this time, I am touching it again but from another angle:
I still try to understand people who when they meet someone they like and want to date or be in a serious relationship with, they first of all want all their friends to ‘approve’ of the person or no deal..
I want to scream like: ” What in the name of … is this?!”
Please, I beg you, if you know you belong in that category, please.. TRY AND UPGRADE your self confidence which is seriously in dysfunction. You seriously,need re-evaluation!

Moving on..

There are some people who are best know as RELATIONSHIP WAILERS!
Whenever they have problems in their relationships or with whatever it is they are doing, the whole world must hear and know the details. They just cannot handle any situation.. Someone has to do it for them..
An advice for you..
You have to learn to endure..
Let not your mouth be fast to tell the next willing and listening ear;
Digest the situation and try your best to handle it..
Even if you want to confide in someone, just 1 or 2 people is all you need and not the all world!
You have to learn to be strong, the world isn’t a bed of roses..
Mila Kunis was and in the danger of losing her eyesight and she never broadcasted it until she had dealt with it and now she’s earned the right to sing her victory song..
Guys,Ladies you all have got to man big time!
No dulling….
As an aside..
Did you hear about the flu Vaccine which could even a permanent cure to that ailment?!
I’m almost already missing the flu! lol..
Sometimes, I think it’s natural to have these little ailments to remind you that you’re human, or don’t you think so?

Love you all peeps!
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There are times in life when you have to seat and ask yourself where you’re headed..
Even when you’re headed in a direction you have to ask yourself if it’s the right one..
Are you feeling me on this train of thought?
Do you feel it wise to take stock of what is, has been, will be and ultimately ought to be?
If you are,
Then, let wisdom, patience and perseverance take you to your desired end.

Following another train of thought I think I should bring to your notice is vetting the kind of advice you get from people no matter how close you both are..
I mean God has given everyone a good sense of reasoning right? So if you choose to make use of yours and put it on duty all the time, it gets better by the day or hour, whatever works for the human brain and experience. On the other hand, if you let yours become so porous that you have to let everyone think for you before you make a decision, then I think you’re more dead than the dead. I’m not saying that there aren’t times when you get confused and need an outside opinion or when things are so unclear you need your folks or that dear friend to you to tell you what really is but your ‘upstairs’ works fine right?
You should be able to decipher which is right or wrong, that’s exactly what I’m trying to say.

I had a day out with someone who’s very close to me and as we were ‘gisting’ he got this call which went on for a very long time that unconsciously,I tuned in to the discussion and it was obvious that I was eavesdropping;the conversation got uglier by the second and then this friend of mine said something like:

” Look if you’re this unhappy, you both should go your separate ways; it’s not working so why keep making yourself unhappy?”

They talked some more and ended the conversation. From the look on face he saw I was upset and when he asked what the reason was,I asked how he was so confident telling someone to leave his wife? He said that in the past 6months he’s settled this couple over 30times and he isn’t exaggerating. The marriage isn’t up to 2years and the lady hasn’t even taken in. It was really funny! How can a lady take in in that kind of environment? I asked him;your friend called you to tell you of his marital woes cause he feels he can unburden himself to you and have no fear of recrimination and not for you to make his decisions for him; if and when he needs you to make his decisions for him, I’m sure he’d let you know; I said He alone and to an extent his wife have that say /choice to end their marriage if they so choose and all you have to do is JUST BE THERE for your friend and render encouragement as at when needed and that’s about it, it shouldn’t be that much to do and despite your feeling of impatience of frustration at your friend’s situation, you DO NOT SUGGEST OR MAKE EARTH SHATTERING DECISIONS for your friends ’cause, they’d one day turn on you and make you the cause of their misfortunes however sincere your intentions were. I stated categorically.

That’s the way I see it, if I’m wrong or you’d go a different way from this please do let me know..
My laptop’s messed up and there are loads of pages that I can’t open so, please bear with me my darlings..
Hope you are well?
Life too?
Thank you so very much..
It’s been a wonderful being here with you all

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It was good while it lasted yes?;
Being away on a ‘writing criuse’ that is;
I dare say that Myne Whitman is my mentor..
Yes I have the writing flair but she directed and molded it, giving it the right flavour. She did that.
I would be sending the part7 of UNFORGIVEN TRESPASS to NAIJASTORIES
So, if you want to follow the remaining part of the ongoing series, you’d have to direct your cursors to that place and you won’t be disappointed that you did.. Would send it in tomorrow and from next week, you would find it thereon.
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Now, as regards the above title for this post; Yes. That is why I am here..
JOBSFORNAIJA I hope you can handle me this time cause I am here to kill it totally; Lol,I kid!
I’m trying to lighten the mood before I go on to the serious topic for the day.
Here it is:

I am sure that we are all familiar with the saying: “A bird at hand is worth two in the bush” If you aren’t, then it simply means that you should value that which you have and handle that which you have with care instead of coveting that which you haven’t and aren’t too sure of.

I’d narrow it to what I want to discuss with you all today; human beings are most of the time fickle in their needs and I’m sure more often than not we have masochistic tendencies otherwise, explain to me how a girl or a guy who has a wonderful partner who dots on him/her still wants to date or be with someone else. It’s crazy people! I still don’t understand it.. 90% of the world is guilty of this..
Suddenly that person isn’t so wonderful, you take the person’s goodness and kindness for granted and you start looking for faults where infact, there aren’t.

I asked a guy why his girlfriend of 6years wasn’t his choice for marriage anymore and truth to tell, he didn’t just know and when I pressed further, he brought up silly and mundane issues and I had to tell im to his face that he was full of shit!

The other day,I asked my friend to hook me up with someone that I could ‘play’ with, seeing that I now had the ‘real deal’ that, I just wanted to play around before settling down and it then hit me that I was just like everyone that I had been preaching against. Now I have someone wonderful, I’m now looking outside; What the hell for?! I just didn’t know.

Was it to show to myself that I could still get as much fun as I previously did?
Or was it to prove to myself that a guy could still get attracted to me?
Or was I just being plain silly?
Was I seeking for attention? But I have all of that already!

What exactly was it that I was looking for outside?
I just realised that it was NOTHING!
We humans, are just never contented with what we have and that is just so bad.. We need change and when we get that change we still can’t handle it.

People, please, lend me your ears..
You have got to restrict yourself to that person you have and especially more so when the person doesn’t give you cause to look outside..
Think of the many people who wish they were in your shoes and who want that person that you are beginning to take for granted.
Think of how you were always DISTURBING God for this person and now you’ve gotten him/her you want to mess it up?! Slap yourself when that destructive need arises..
I’ve said my piece.

That’s it from me today; I love you immensely that it keeps revealing to me the depth of love I have inside of me..
Take care my darlings!

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Hello favourite people! How are you all? How was your weekend? I went for a wedding; I was on the road on Friday, Saturday and Sunday! Right now, I feel like my bones are broken in places even I don’t know; But I digress. Just wanted to chit-chat abit.. I wish blogger was a bit like mini-twit arena except that you could type for like half a page or so.

What’s wrong with a guy of 25 dating a girl of 16? Or 15, 17 dating a man who’s 28,29 and 30? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as far as the intentions are sincere
Girls it has been proven maturely quickly than the men and for a teenager rapidly approaching maturity, the brain wave length would surely differ from a teenage boy who’s approaching maturity. His interests would most probably lean towards his testosterone, being the center of his circle of friends and other mundane things.

I’m sure a lot of people would have varying opinions and I really want to know..
What’s wrong with the picture?

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This week, today, I will as promised, talk about women.
I’m sure we’ve all been looking towards this; Wondering if I would do a better job here yeah? I would do my best. If you aren’t satisfied, Please don’t hesitate to join in this conversation o.. It certainly isn’t private. How was your weekend? Hope it went well? I had in mind to have a quiet weekend but it turned out to be something else. Goes to show that MAN PROPOSES GOD DISPOSES.

Which brings me to this pending conversation:WHY ARE WOMEN FASTIDIOUS IN AN OH SO NEGATIVE WAY? WHY WOULD YOU NOT LIVE AND LET LIFE? What I mean? A lady sees and guy and in a week she decides that this man must be ‘her husband’, her conviction of course would be unfounded.You want to see that which obviously isn’t. Making you turn in to this pathetic, needy , inferiority complex ridden woman all for A MAN. Just 1 man. He wasn’t there when you were born, you didn’t know him, he didn’t contribute to your existence in any way and then suddenly, for the wrong unhealthy reasons, you ‘can’t live without him’. The pity of the situation is that he doesn’t even care one bit about you and you sit there…. Pining…. SMH….. Pathetic.

Do you know what men want?
Have you ever taken a guy or two as case studies? Do you really pay attention when men are relaxed and are having an easy conversation with each other about women? Do you pay attention to women when they sit to discuss their experiences? You know what happens to a lot of us? We think: ‘It can’t happen to me’ ‘ He’s so different, he’d never do that to me, I’m not that stupid’. Women don’t learn from other peoples experience, they like to have their own experience and when they do, they wallow in self pity and expect the whole world to bath you with reassuring words- Please, it happens, will always happen and may have helped you to in the long run…
Yes I said it! Don’t cling, don’t be too needy, don’t crowd or cage him.. He already knows you’re good in wifely duties so don’t over emphasize it.. He was eating before you came along,He had clean clothes and dressed smart when you met him,I mean that was one of the things you noticed yes? Don’t start doing his laundry PLEASE!Live life as you were before you both met. Don’t be tied to the hip with him until he virtually indicates otherwise(not just in words, but deeds by taking you to the altar AND signing the dotted lines!).

Everyone one needs someone to be there for them at one point or another, but please ladies, women don’t insinuate yourself into every situation your man finds himself.. Let him work it out and even if you could have been of help, try and control yourself.

I’m not saying some men aren’t worth the stress but even the best of them all can still be ‘kept’ if you played by the ‘sane’ rule.

You noticed when a man’s distant and you try to play ‘mummy, sister, friend, lover, confidant’ all in one? Give it a break! He wants his space! Same as you can give the ‘distant’ treatment! Guys love it when women give them the cold shoulder, show them strength ,resolve and independence.

Why would you want to compare your man with someone’s? That is so low and primitive. Why would you want to own a man? That smells of inferiority complex from a mile off and that is so uncool. As women take men who love them too much and show it for granted, that also applies to the men.

I would ask why women would stoop so low to fight for a man in his presence? Making him feel that he is so special or that he is the center of attraction? God’s gift to women? He isn’t and you’re really silly for thinking and doing that. Who wants to know? Regardless of the countless times you fight for him, he’d leave you if he so desires so why make the effort at all? Guys already know what they want and have made the decision and no matter how indecisive they may seem, he’s just fooling you; he’s made his choice.

Don’t make a done deal an easy job;
Don’t belittle yourself for a man even if you feel you’ve nothing;
Don’t make any man any more special than he already is;
Please never make a man the center of your universe.

Just appreciate them for the joy and comfort they can give you and learn from their inadequacies. Study men, tag them then you’ve got no obvious or unwarranted problems.

I made series of mistakes in this writeup but I have corrected them.. I was in a huge hurry.I love you all so very much.

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Life’s got loads of roads which lead to paths and turns that can either make or unmake you.
Either way, the final decision is yours. The choice to either swim or drown is for you and you ALONE to decide. In whatever we choose to embark upon,are involved in,working on,believe in; just STAND FIRM knowing that the inner strength in you that would define who you are and shape your destiny lies deep within.

I’ve got this post to men, if it offends your sensibilities, well, TOO BAD!No apologies. It’s the questions as they emerge that we should ponder on whilst the replies would be appreciated. Men (as a gender) amaze me! I wish there was a course/study in college termed “the study or the male species as it affects the female folk” or something of that sort and I’m sure that a lot of ladies would gladly enroll for the course or study.

I wonder if there’s anything wrong with you all upstairs and I’m being candid in asking that question.
If women have changed over time from our previous belief and perception of the values and ideals attached to them,MEN are solely to blame because there’s a limit to human endurance and tolerance.

Why in God’s name would you profess to love a women when you can’t stand her but just the part of her anatomy which favours you? Why would you promise marriage when you have no intention of fulfilling the promise? I wonder how you were created to be so heartless and then you scream when your pill is served you by a woman.. Who gave you that right? Tit for tat I’d say!

Consider if you were told by some lady,who cause she’s comfortable financially, kicks you out saying you’re there for her money and what you can get from her; How would you feel? So why would you assume that every lady is they for your stupid little money?

Why would you think that you’re ‘OH SO SPECIAL? ‘ Who in the blazing heck do you think you are? If you were God I wonder what would happen to the ladies.. Hasn’t it occurred to you that you should worship the female folk and all that they stand for? We are that special.

Having the guts to lay your hands on a woman with the intention to cause harm, you’re the worst fool and the weakest man alive! Yet, you expect her to lie on your behalf that it happened to her in some other way..

I got nothing to say to men that sponge off women, and yet dominate and degrade them, that is the meanest trait men posses and yet they are so good in hiding it…

The evils that men do abound
The pains women go through caused by them is unendless and heratwrenching
Yet like women are, they still hope for the better
Some have given up hope
Some have become like men themselves
Some have become bitter
Some have vowed to deal with men

What ever way you choose to go from here, just know, you have that strength to do better and making the right choices makes you a better person..

Next post would be on WOMEN!

How’s everyone? I trust good? I love you all so very much..

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