When Obi started out with a few slaps on the cheeks,Anita thought she could handle it,after all,no one is perfect. If Obi slapped her to cut her excesses, then she must endure and endeavor not to annoy him.
What a laugh! As the relationship progressed so did the beating,which had matured from the few slaps earlier given. It had also increased in intensity.
Then they got married.
What started out as Anita’s resolution to endure Obi’s beating led to her being scarred for life and then later, her death.
Could this have been prevented? A thousand times YES!
I believe that settling for less is one big reason so many people fall prey to this sad and humiliating phenomenon. I do not think that you are being consumed by your so called idea of love when you want to endure another human being beating the living daylights out of you and expect you to accept with no questions asked. I just think it is the victims’ inability to see the bigger picture and that perhaps,is the crux of the matter.
‘Cause if you are able to see the bigger picture, you would know that once it starts,it never stops until it is ended by either an external factor or an internal one of which both are still same like same sides of a coin.
Once your partner starts to batter you, you have got to get out immediately before you sink. Don’t think he will change,cause it would actually take divine intervention for that to happen. When a person starts to treat you like you are inferior, then it is time to leave.
I dare say that it is better where you are going and never ever look back because when you do,you would be worse of. Why would you subject yourself to torture and degradation when the world already has so much to give? I would think that you are a masochist or that,you are sick or something along those lines..
It’s time to get help
It’s time to let others in.
So that they can give you strength when you are weak and think for you when you are down and out and so confused.
Its time to send that batterer packing and reclaim your freedom and your soul. If you are reading this and are in this situation, you have to act now but with caution. You also have to be wise. I wish you the very best as you reclaim your life.
The pic I used is from Flicr,courtesy of Kisstherain